Tips for Flirting by Email

You have signed up with an online dating site. You have spent hours agonizing over your profile and you have gone through numerous photos looking for that perfect one to post. Now, at last, you are ready for some dating action. You may think that the hard part of online dating are now over, but for some people, the difficulties are only just beginning.

The realization that someone, or maybe several people, have come across your online dating profile and now wants to begin a conversation with you can make even the boldest person want to click the Logout button! But before you do, take a deep breath. Unlike conventional dating, if you start the conversation off on the wrong foot, you do not have to sit through the remainder of a long, agonizing date.

If you say the wrong thing to someone and he/she never responds back, you have not really lost anything. One thing that can almost be guaranteed with online dating is that sooner or later someone else will be sending you email. As the saying goes, if at first you do not succeed, try, try again.

Much of the success in making it past that initial message, will be in the delivery. With conventional dating, when two people meet for the first time in person they do much of the communicating with body language. They look into each others eyes, they sit a little closer together, they play with their hair, and they giggle a lot. Basically if there is chemistry, the couple flirts like mad!

Email Flirting

At the end of the day, the art of flirting is not something that everybody is good at it. When you are communicating online, being able to flirt while being engaging is what is going to get you to the next round. When body language is not possible, as is the case with online dating, you need to learn the art of email flirting. Not only what you write but how you write are equally important when email flirting.

But what do you write. One of the best and easiest ways to break the ice is to talk about something you have read in the person's profile. This sends the message that you are interested too, because it means you have taken time to read that person's profile. Your question can be about almost anything: the person's job, education, family, entertainment preferences, hobbies, or whatever. There are not any hard and fast rules. Just do not come across as boring, pompous, or uninterested (unless you are in which case, do not reply at all).

At this point in the online dating game, sending a brief note is enough, especially if you have got many emails to reply to. Keep the communication lighthearted and positive. Try to add in a sentence about yourself that the other person will find intriguing. Remember, you are supposed to be flirting. And before you sign off, ask a question to increase your chances that you will get a reply back.